When you’re young it’s easier to find and make friends. Being in school, or in a work space surrounds you with like minded people who have the same interests as you. As you get older it may be more difficult to make new and meaningful connections. Finding friends as you get older doesn’t have to be difficult, we have created a step by step list on how to make meaningful friendships as you get older.
1.)Find Out What You Want and Create a List
The first step in meeting people is to figure out what kind of friendships you value. Some people prefer friends that have like minded interests such as religious affiliations and hobbies. Others don’t mind friends with differing views. Figure out what type of friendships you cherish and what you’re looking for in a friend. Create a list and write it down. Not only does creating a list help you figure out what you want, but it also helps you avoid wasting time with people you might not connect well with. A list will also make it easier for you to seek out activities where you might meet such friendships, which also makes it less difficult for you to start conversations with strangers.
2.) Can’t Come Up With any Activities to Meet New Friends?
If you’re still lost as to what activities you might want to explore to meet new friends don’t worry, here’s a list.
- Get a four legged friend. Dogs make for wonderful companions and you’ll be surprised how many other dog owners you might meet at dog parks or on walks. This opens a way for easy conversation starters.
- Join a Meetup group. Meetup.com is a website where you can meet like minded people who have the same interests as you, who live in your zip code..
- Live in an adult active living community. Adult active living communities such as The Holbrook are perfect places to meet new people. Not only do you meet people in the same age range as you, but the myriad of activities at such communities will make it easier to find people with similar interests.
- Get a part time job. Although you might already be retired, getting a part time job can be a great way to make connections with others. Many retirees who feel that they are active enough to work, get a part time job to meet new people and to stay involved in the community.
- Join a fitness class. Going to a regular fitness class will bring you closer to others and you might see regulars or familiar faces each time you go. This makes it easier to find something to talk about and could be an opening to new friendships.
- If working out isn’t an option due to health concerns or you can’t commit to having a puppy, how about taking some classes. Our Holbrook communities will be hosting a variety of classes and we’ll be partnering up with local universities to provide continuing education classes to our residents.
- Volunteer or become a mentor. Check out our blog post on the life changing experience of becoming a mentor.
3.) Getting Out There
Now that you’ve created your list and found activities that you like, it’s time to get out there and make some new friends. If you wrote on your list that you would like to meet people with the same interests, such as religion or hobbies go to places where you can meet such people. Getting out there is the first step to meeting people, chances are you won’t be meeting anyone while you’re at home so get out and talk to people. If someone invites you to an event, but you think it might be boring still make the effort to go out. This not only will help you getting used to speaking to strangers, but you never really know where you might meet that new friend.
Many Blessings and Hospitality Yours,
Al Holbrook and the Holbrook Life Team